5 Confidence Hacks for your date! Have you ever been embarrassed during a date?
First dates can be so hard. You want to make a good impression, but have to combat your nerves while doing so.
Body language always speaks first in any conversation. When you are confident your body relaxes, becomes more open, you lean in, you smile, and you become more animated. When you are tense or not at ease with yourself, you will be sitting back, crossing your legs, maybe your arms, your mouth will barely break a smile, and your eyes will be searching elsewhere in the room. Knowing this will allow you to convey confidence with your body language.
First, make sure you give her a chance not only to speak but to start conversations as well. There is really no better way to get to know her than through the interaction you will have with her in conversation. What you learn through all of this communication will serve as a great starting point.
Here are three conversation starter question ideas for your first date:
“What do you love to do in your spare time?”
“What do you particularly enjoy about that?”
“If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would it be and what would you do?”
I have found a good article for the first date from a woman’s point of view. I agree with most but disagree about the first kiss. If you have been talking to her online for a while or know her well, go for the first kiss. I did all the time while I was dating and it was never an issue.
Compliments are great. You can say nice things about her eyes, looks etc, but don’t mention anything sexual at first. You be surprised at the number of women who told me awkward things guys send to them on a first and last date.
The conversation should be like a job interview. Ask open-ended questions which cannot be answered by a yes or no. Plan your questions ahead of time and practice them, so you will not forget. If you have a great time definitely send a text letting her know and follow up with a phone call the next day. This will stand out from most men in the dating scene. Here are a couple of articles with more first date tips.
“Women do love surprises, so let her know you have a plan without actually telling her what it is. Give her bits and pieces of information… especially information for how she should dress (to avoid her wearing high heels to go golfing, or jeans to a 5-star restaurant). Tell her:If you’re going to a restaurant with a dress code: “We’re going somewhere for dinner that I think you’ll love… so don’t be afraid to dress up.
”If you’re going on a long walk: “We’ll be doing something really fun after we eat… so wear comfortable shoes.”If you’re planning a hike: “Don’t worry about dressing up… you’ll need to be comfortable where we’re going.”
Some people might love to hear you talk and you might just be a great speaker, but save your oratory sessions for the conference and meeting rooms. Talking is good as it helps you express yourself, but what you also want is for her to be able to communicate. Women, more often than not, gladly indulge in talking about themselves when you give them the opportunity to do so (I have observed this with hundreds of dates, and clients on dates as well).