Relationships are a challenge, and in a long distance relationship, it can be more challenging. It is important to continue to stay connected and to build your trust in each other. The best way to do that is to communicate your thoughts, desires, and needs so there is no miscommunication. All relationships take work and #long distance relationships require extra work and creativity to make them successful.
Communication and trust are important in any relationship but when you are miles apart it can place a strain on both of you. You will have to learn to trust your partner without direct supervision, which might be an entirely new experience for you. But, trust should not need direct supervision. Anytime it is needed to keep the other person monogamous, it’s a sure sign that they will grab the first opportunity to stray when your eyes get tired of watching. Communicate your needs with your partner and use your phone conversation for more than just a recitation of what happened that day. Those small details help bond you, but so will the stories of your past and your dreams of your future.
Tip #2 Creativity
Be creative with your communication.While you are apart take the time and make the effort to communicate at least daily, more often if you can. You can maintain an emotional connection with communication that is brief and frequent. They don’t have to be long, in-depth heart-to-heart conversations but can be short text messages about your day, asking advice or just telling your partner that you are thinking about them.
Schedule some digital facetime conversation at least weekly. Call daily, even if it’s just for a couple of minutes and send a text or two daily letting them know you are thinking about them. Tell jokes in the text messages and finish the joke in an email or conversation. In your next visit leave messages around their place, hidden so they will not be found all at once. Mail a note weekly. While digital communication is instant and free, there is nothing like holding a note in your hand, written in your partner’s handwriting and having your name plastered across the top.there is something so much more personal and loving about a piece of paper held in your hand. Write a thank you note to your partner for listening to you while you ranted about your boss. Or write an invitation to your next rendezvous.
So break the mold and make a video for your partner. Use your phone to tape yourself driving to work, while the phone is in the passenger seat aimed at you. Chat with the phone like you partner is sitting in the seat next to you.
Sending flowers can get expensive, so think about gifts you purchase, box and mail yourself. Box a gift in several layers of boxes with notes written across the top each one to increase the anticipation. Bake cookies in shapes or make a collage of your last visit and frame it.
Tip #3 Plan
It is important to communicate your plan to each other and be clear about your expectations. You may be dreaming of a lifetime partnership and they might be thinking this is a good way to be committed without a real commitment. Have a plan and make it together. Understand the rules for communication – how much, how long and what to do when things do not go as planned. Try to visit each other as often as possible.Plan your visits and time them so you both alternate the travel. In other words, you have to talk out what might happen if you were living together. But, because you are not you will have to plan it.
Tip #4 Keep Your Independence
Being in a #committed relationship does not mean you have to stop growing and developing as an individual. In fact, it’s best if you do not offer to move to your partner’s town immediately.Instead, it’s important to maintain some degree of independence. It can be empowering to go out with friends and grow your career with the knowledge and stability of a committed relationship even when the object of your affections is miles and miles away. When your eventual plan to unite finally happens you will bring with you a mature and developed personhood who will bond well with your partner.